Blog Posts by Category

176) The Salvation of Eden, Chapter 12 -- Lenny's Surprising Wisdom on Surviving in a Foreign Land

176) The Salvation of Eden, Chapter 12 -- Lenny's Surprising Wisdom on Surviving in a Foreign Land

“You can’t just make up a lie on the spot!” Kohra protested. “It won’t be believable!”

         Lenny fired off, “I’m Wilma Featherstein, from Carding’s Corners, I work in the Pale Boar Inn as a bartender. I’m Jessica Smithson, from High Ridge; I work on the Kempton’s Hog Farm, about three miles outside of town, right along the banks of the Spokane River. I’m Bonnie Billingsley, from Jordanville; I’m on a research trip, studying the migratory patterns of rare butterflies.”

Read More
171) The Salvation of Eden, Chapter 7 -- Old Man McKiller

171) The Salvation of Eden, Chapter 7 -- Old Man McKiller

Kohra’s first moments of awareness suggested that she was stretched out on the softest bed, with the softest blanket, and felt as comfortable as ever in her life. Yawning, stretching, she opened her eyes. She was sleeping on the bare wood floor, although she did have a soft, thin cotton blanket. Sitting up, she looked around. Her pillow looked like a rock. She poked it with her finger. It was a rock.

Read More
170) Hallowe'en, Ancestors, and War:  One small way you can take action

170) Hallowe'en, Ancestors, and War: One small way you can take action

For Hallowe’en this year, I decided to start a new tradition, in the spirit of Dia de los Muertos, a personal ritual of honouring my ancestors at midnight tonight, and welcoming them back into my life. I am humbled at their sacrifice and strength, and I am proud to have done my part in breaking the cycles of trauma, violence, and more trauma that result from such horrific experiences as war.

Read More
169) The despair you are feeling right now:  Dead children, bombed hospitals, the lies of tyranny in a dying world, and the crushing hopelessness of “What the hell can I DO about any of this?”

169) The despair you are feeling right now:  Dead children, bombed hospitals, the lies of tyranny in a dying world, and the crushing hopelessness of “What the hell can I DO about any of this?”

What can we do, in the midst of a genocide?  What can we do, in the midst of tyranny that’s been happening, and strengthening, since before we were born?  We can we do, in a world that burns its own living flesh, due to the greed of the most-privileged minority who clamour for ever-more wealth and power?

None of us want this.  

Read More
167) Thanks Mom:  Intergenerational Wisdom, Part 2 -- Friendship and Community
Favourites, Psychology Favourites, Psychology

167) Thanks Mom: Intergenerational Wisdom, Part 2 -- Friendship and Community

I am coming to realize that this Tale of Aloneness was never actually true, and that what made me feel alone was simply Shame, not the reality of being disconnected from people.

When I look at my life from a different angle, then that same passage of time that seemed bereft of social connections was, in fact, RICH with relationships! 

Realizing this has given me a sense of almost something like awe…

Read More
163) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 16:  The Final Step to Rational Self-analysis; Sub-section 4 -- Eating Better

163) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 16: The Final Step to Rational Self-analysis; Sub-section 4 -- Eating Better

With cooking, there are a few basic heuristics, that can REVOLUTIONIZE your cooking.  Without becoming an expert, without memorizing a bunch of stuff, without following a bunch of recipes, you can still turn yourself from a frozen-pizza type of cook, to “Hey! This is really good!” type of cook.

Read More
162) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 16 - The Final Step to Rational Self-analysis; Sub-section 3 -- The Life-Altering Sorcery of Combining CONTEXT with Competence

162) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 16 - The Final Step to Rational Self-analysis; Sub-section 3 -- The Life-Altering Sorcery of Combining CONTEXT with Competence

The more precise you can get, in terms of the behaviours you need to undertake in order to accomplish your goals, the better.  Because, once you have precisely identified The Things you need to Do, then, as illustrated above, you can pull the precise CONTEXTUAL levers that you need, in order to make Doing The Thing into the default, the Thing that is practically the easiest to do in that situation.

Read More
161) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 16:  The Final Step to Rational Self-analysis; Sub-section 2 -- The Power of Context

161) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 16: The Final Step to Rational Self-analysis; Sub-section 2 -- The Power of Context

The thing to emphasize for effective goal pursuit is emphatically NOT “taking personal responsibility.” While not COMPLETELY unimportant (obviously), this whole “make your bed” mantra is only a tiny, tiny piece of the puzzle, and if over-focused on, it becomes basically a huge, shaming, blaming, counterproductive, disempowering lie.

Read More