118) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 7:  Resistance, the sneaky bastard
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118) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 7: Resistance, the sneaky bastard

Society’s general response to this, ubiquitously shared from the well-meaning friend to the well-meaning internet commenter, from the self-help speaker to the solutions-oriented therapist, is, in essence, just do it. Just change. Just stop thinking the bad thoughts and holding on to the negative beliefs. Just stop focusing on yourself and your problems and look at how you can be of service to others. Just stop feeling sorry for yourself for all the things that haven’t been perfect, and practice gratitude for all the blessings in your life. Not uncommonly nowadays, I hear echoes of Jordan Peterson, sternly telling Bucko to sort himself out.

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112) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 6:  Backlash, resistance, and dissociation
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112) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 6: Backlash, resistance, and dissociation

In the example of procrastination, your wiser self (or maybe it’s your motivated, goal-striving self) knows that Doing The Thing is the right thing to do, and has convinced itself that it WANTS to do that thing.  It will feel a sense of self-integrity, authenticity, if it follows through on its intentions.   

But then there’s a bunch of other selves.  And they say, “Fuck Doing The Thing; I want to Do a Different Thing.”

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