144) Coming Full Circle:  Part 4 — My Personal Piece of Performance Art

144) Coming Full Circle:  Part 4 — My Personal Piece of Performance Art

It’s not ideas that will make the difference, so much as it’s people connecting to their gentle, and passionate, animal hearts, their sensuous flesh, their mortal vulnerability.  

How many of us, truly, have dug down into our guts and done the deep, soul-work necessary to heal our wounds and fill our hearts with love for our neighbours?

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141) Coming Full Circle:  Part 1 — Me, this blog, Pink, and a Scathing Diatribe against The System, maaaan 

141) Coming Full Circle:  Part 1 — Me, this blog, Pink, and a Scathing Diatribe against The System, maaaan 

I feel really, really grateful for you all. All the people who have been reading this and sharing thoughts, a whole community of people who share ideas on Facebook especially and in comments here — it’s just awesome to have experienced all this. Blogging is (for me anyway, lol….) a pretty personal thing, like writing into your diary….but then for some ungodly reason sharing it with the world.

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136) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 15:  FACT Exercise #2 -- Choosing Meaning over Control
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136) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 15: FACT Exercise #2 -- Choosing Meaning over Control

If you feel shitty, that’s ok.  I mean, it’s not exactly great, like yay, yippee, I feel shitty!  No, but its “ok” in the sense that feeling shitty is just part of life.  It’s inevitable. 

But we have more strength than we are so often willing to tap into.  If we HAVE TO, we can overcome those shitty feelings.  At least for a while.  At least for long enough to get some Really Important Things done.  

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135) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 14:  FACT Exercise #1 -- Focusing
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135) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 14: FACT Exercise #1 -- Focusing

The thing about telescopes (and microscopes, and binoculars), is that you can’t see shit out of them until you get them aimed and focused properly.  Before you do that, they’re actually worse than your naked eyes; everything is just a blur and you have no idea what you’re looking at.

Self-healing and personal growth are exactly like that.  Until you know what you’re aiming at, and focus yourself properly, you’re not going to get anywhere by “trying to improve”.  You might even get worse, because there’s nothing quite like failing, for someone who struggles not to feel like a failure.

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134) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 13:  Avoiding the Shit
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134) From Shitty-ness to Well-ness, Part 13: Avoiding the Shit

The only thing we really get better at by avoiding our problems, is avoiding our problems.  We become Level 10 Shit Avoiders.  Our defence mechanisms, fantasy thinking, distractions and other “coping strategies” become our super-powers. Pretty shitty super-powers, eh? No wonder Marvel and DC don’t have movies about Avoidance Man fighting bad guys….

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131) Stranger Things, Part 5:  Some wee critiques, and a suggestion; or Why Is Henry so Damn Evil???
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131) Stranger Things, Part 5: Some wee critiques, and a suggestion; or Why Is Henry so Damn Evil???

The biggest unexplored ‘hole’ in the show, which would be SO COOL to unpack, is why Henry is so evil in the first place.  Like, he’s a mega-scale psycho, right from when he was a kid.  Are we just supposed to assume he was born that way?  Victor Kreel talks about him being “sensitive”, and so, it seems we are either supposed to assume he was genetically psychotic, or that his sensitive nature caused him to get possessed by the demonic power in the Upside Down?  Either are, of course, possible, but not very satisfying.

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126) All Cops Are Not (Necessarily) Bastards:  The Inescapability of Hypocrisy for Inherently Flawed and Limited Humans

126) All Cops Are Not (Necessarily) Bastards: The Inescapability of Hypocrisy for Inherently Flawed and Limited Humans

To be honest, I don’t know quite what to do with this whole thing.  I still judge the police, mostly, for their aggressiveness, too-frequent callousness and lack of empathy, and for the oh-so-painfully-slow pace of the institution evolving in a progressive direction.  I still judge the many, many officers I have witnessed engage in unnecessary violence at peaceful protests. I still will raise my children to avoid calling the cops for most situations involving vulnerable people, based on my conviction that the police will likely make the situation worse.  I still will advocate for and attend protests and sign petitions calling for police reform and demilitarizing them and holding public inquiries for police violence and redistributing a big chunk of their budgets to community-level organizations, mental health workers, and the like.  But….

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125) If I Could Write a Poem

125) If I Could Write a Poem

I want to write a poem about beauty and love and laughter and kindness and inspiration and heroes, about Grandma’s hands, and Grandpa’s chuckles,  and the smell of the dog I had as a child and the sweet tartness of apples and the purring pleasure of an orgasm and snowflakes sparkling in sunlight and those moments when you feel hushed and perfect and there’s no need to say anything…

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