31) Less than half, and none of the important ones:  Part 1

31) Less than half, and none of the important ones: Part 1

Have you ever been on the receiving end of someone’s harshness? Criticism? Gas-lighting? Name-calling? Bullying? Shaming? Humiliating? Lying?

Well, “sticks and stones may break your bones but words….”

Just stop. Right there. Because “words can never hurt you” is absolute, dangerous, bullshit. Words can break your heart, poison your mind, even destroy your life.

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9) Stop trying to hit me.  And hit me!

9) Stop trying to hit me. And hit me!

But have I ever “really engaged”?  Seen what I could really do?  Rose to the challenges of my own desire for personal growth and authenticity?  Or have I merely placated my desires with the fantasy of “that time in the future” — when I yell my battle cry, shake the dust out of my soul, and “really give ‘er”. And man, it’s gonna be GLORIOUS! I’m going to change EVERYTHING!

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3) Unicorns, migraines, and chiropractors
Trauma/Healing Trauma/Healing

3) Unicorns, migraines, and chiropractors

I don’t believe in unicorns. I’d like to though. I mean, wouldn’t you? A world of magic, in which reality isn’t just dead matter heading towards thermodynamic equilibrium, is something I yearn for deeply, and have ever since I was that 5 year old, sitting on her blankie, willing it to fly, or that 10 year old trying to use the Force to move something with her mind.

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