167) Thanks Mom:  Intergenerational Wisdom, Part 2 -- Friendship and Community
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167) Thanks Mom: Intergenerational Wisdom, Part 2 -- Friendship and Community

I am coming to realize that this Tale of Aloneness was never actually true, and that what made me feel alone was simply Shame, not the reality of being disconnected from people.

When I look at my life from a different angle, then that same passage of time that seemed bereft of social connections was, in fact, RICH with relationships! 

Realizing this has given me a sense of almost something like awe…

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87) Jordan Peterson:  Part 7 - Psychology at the Ending of the World; Subsection 1:  Where Jordan is Wrong AF

87) Jordan Peterson: Part 7 - Psychology at the Ending of the World; Subsection 1: Where Jordan is Wrong AF

So along comes Jordan Peterson, with his “12 Rules for Life”, promising us the “antidote to chaos.”  Like every snake-oil salesman of the past, his advice may very likely be ineffective, OR, ends up causing exactly the problem he is promising to cure.  Based on the Judaeo-Christian framework which Jordan argues is the foundation of Western morality and ethics, this would be considered, well, downright evil.

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68) Purpose -- Part 2 -- Why the Environmental Movement has Failed (so far) -- Act I:  Me & You

68) Purpose -- Part 2 -- Why the Environmental Movement has Failed (so far) -- Act I: Me & You

I love you.

You might be thinking….”Really? That’s creepy.”
Or you might be thinking….”Really? We’ve never even met!”
Or you might be thinking…..”Why, what’d you have in mind?”
Or you might be thinking…..”Huh? I thought this was about why the environmental movement has failed.”

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67) Purpose:  A Four-part series -- Part 1 -- "Tearing Down the Wall"

67) Purpose: A Four-part series -- Part 1 -- "Tearing Down the Wall"

The antidote to suffering and alienation, is love.  It’s trusting.  Reaching out for connection.  It’s admitting weakness, accepting yourself, and accepting the Other.  It’s embracing the unknown, together.  It’s courage, in the Brene Brown sense of speaking your truth, with your whole heart.

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50)  Dirty Feet  (TW: suicide, sexual assault)

50) Dirty Feet (TW: suicide, sexual assault)

Thinking about suicide has been my main hobby for 14 years, 7 months and 16 days.
You were right about sexual assault, especially for kids.
“It makes you see yourself as a demon.  So you check-out, dissociate, a lot of the time, because who wants to be a demon?”
I realize why I kept this fantasy alive for so long.
I believed the only worthy thing to do with my life was make sure my last act will be one of love.

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35)  Thoughts on Three TEDx Talks

35) Thoughts on Three TEDx Talks

I was trying to take people, right there, in that moment, on a journey, to engage minds and connect with hearts, directly, from me to you, unimpeded by theory and intellectualization. Rather than aiming for a rational appeal that could be communicated discursively, I wanted to engage people in a form of honest, authentic dialogue that transcended mere spoken language but could be conveyed through music, symbolism, story and nonverbal behaviour.  So I tossed theory completely out the window and went straight for the heart through poetry, song, story, and drumming.

And it worked

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30) Hell:  Epilogue

30) Hell: Epilogue

“Hell” is an allegory. It can help a person understand the suffering of feeling existentially Alone. And thus, it points towards Connection, through opening to suffering.

This is useful, if it helps you connect with others, and if it motivates you to go more deeply into your questions. But it’s not useful if it just scares you into clinging to The Answer that some particular cult insists upon.

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29) Hell, Part 2

29) Hell, Part 2

Hell is like a logic trap, constructed so you only have one answer, one solution. As soon as you throw Infinity into an equation, it trumps everything else. Pascal knew this; this is what his wager was all about — that faith is not based on reason. But anyway, back to Hell as an unfair logic trap:

Hell = You Have To Give Your Life To God Or You Are An Idiot.

It’s the best sales-pitch ever. Buy my product, or Burn In Hell For All Eternity.

I call bullshit.

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28) Hell, Part 1

28) Hell, Part 1

Do you remember what it was like when you first heard about Hell?

For me, running into Hell was a soul-wrenching struggle of childhood. I mean, seriously man, Hell is the scariest thing ever!! And my young mind was excellent at imagining the unspeakable agony of actually BURNING. For all eternity! ….. wow….. like….damn…..who thought up THAT idea?

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