272) Happy birthday, Clara
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272) Happy birthday, Clara

Rooted in authentic self-acceptance, in easy, free, love for your life, Joy is just there, moment by moment, from when you first open your eyes, to the middle of slurping your bowl of noodles, to walking down the street, to watching some TV show, to talking with a friend or reading a book.  It’s just there.

It’s like how, when you wake up in the springtime and the windows are open, you hear birds.  You just do.  They’re just there, singing.  Even on what might be a really tough day in your life, the birds sing.

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153) "How did you know you were trans?"  Part 7 - 'Gender Dysphoria Isn't What You Think'
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153) "How did you know you were trans?" Part 7 - 'Gender Dysphoria Isn't What You Think'

I can say now, 100% open heartedly, that I know what life feels like when you love yourself.  It’s gentler. Richer. There’s more loveliness in the little moments.  It’s easier to savour the present. There’s less attachment to ”the shit”.  You realize that “Joy” is actually a thing people feel, and not just a religious invention to make you think you need to believe in God. Your future starts to feel real, like it actually matters.

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146)  Clara Dolderman:  My coming out story
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146) Clara Dolderman: My coming out story

People who are in transition, or who are questioning their gender and trying to figure themselves out, really need acceptance, because let me tell you, the more that your social world threatens to reject you, the WAY harder this ends up being for the person.  They need to accept themselves, because it’s Who They Are. And it sure is a lot harder to accept and love yourself, if the people around you don’t.

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